I must say that I don’t fully endorse everything that the Pearl’s have written (in their other books). I haven’t really read anything in the Created to be His Help Meet book that I don’t agree with, though. I believe that as you read it and pray through it and study your husband the Lord will transform your marriage.

There are some things that are a bit extreme and she’s very blunt, but she’s speaking frankly to women who are making excuses for not obeying God’s word and she’s really seeking to get their attention, I think. And, that she does!!

Theologically speaking, I’m not sure they are completely sound…but this book is definitely worth reading…for God’s Glory!
Mindy

Genesis 2:18 “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper fit for him.” Wow, ladies, that’s us! Something that really stands out to me in this book is that I am to be helping my husband to do WHATEVER HE WANTS TO DO! I am not an equal partner here with the same right to vote! As I seek to be my husband’s helper he will be able to trust me and will ask for my input, but my input is not a right…it’s a privilege that I can earn by honoring God by submitting to the head He’s placed over me.

Praising God for his design…struggling to live it out by His grace!
Mindy

The Lord is so kind! He led me to purchase Debi Pearl’s new book, “Created to be His Helpmeet” through a precious friend in Dallas. This book has been transforming my thoughts about my relationship to my husband and then today the Lord reminded me of what He taught me just 3 short months after moving to Maryland. He reminded me of the Ephesians 5 Scripture where He sets forth the truth that marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church. The purpose of the church (the Bride) is to glorify Christ. Through the teaching of a lady at church I learned that as wives our responsibility is to make our husbands known, to magnify him, not ourselves and our own agendas. This teaching is stifling to some, but to me it makes my spirit sing…to know what I was made for…to make my husband known, to support him in his agenda, to follow where he leads joyfully, etc. I am finding true joy as I look to God and cry out to Him for help to live this truth out in my day to day life.

For the Glory of Christ alone,
Mindy

“A soft answer turns away wrath
A harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

Jeremy and I are asking the Lord to change our hearts in this area. We have been made aware by the Spirit that when we are impatient and speak harshly to our children or one another it only produces anger in the other person. When I think of being spoken harshly to it produces feelings of rebellion and a wall goes up between myself and that other person. As I was dwelling on this I realized that this is not what I want for my relationships with Nate, Lela, Justin and CJ.

More from God’s Word:
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.” Proverbs 10:12

“The anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” James 1:19-21

In light of these Scriptures we are asking the Holy Spirit to grant us self-control…to cry out to Him when we are tempted to be frustrated and speak harshly. We want to take these opportunities to instruct and teach and train in the midst of everyday life instead of speaking harsh word to try to change their behavior only. Our goal as parents is to develop solid relationships of trust with our children, living out the Gospel before them in such a way that it will draw them to the Savior. May we lift Him up as our only Salvation so that many might be drawn to Him…especially our children.

Longing for Heaven,
Mindy